I have been living in the US on a student visa since August 2022. Leaving the land where I was born, grew up, and created beautiful memories with my friends and family is a heart-wrenching experience. Then coming to a completely different atmosphere which is geographically, environmentally, culturally, politically and economically different from Bangladesh was a real challenge. However, unlike many aspiring international students, I did not come alone. I travelled across the Atlantic with my equally witted and brilliant husband and our three wonderful children. Still, the separation anxiety hit hard right from the start. And the feeling skyrocketed when we finally took our seats inside the aircraft and visited the washroom for the first time. With no water service inside, the toilet ignites a feeling of distress, alienation, and unfamiliarity, which we commonly perceive as ‘Culture Shock’. For those aspiring to study in the US this year or soon, this article is for you!
We often hear the term ‘culture shock’ from those who live abroad. But what is the concept of culture shock? Homesickness, separation anxiety, a sense of withdrawal, sleeping and eating disorders, helplessness, lack of concentration and a tendency to cry alone are some common symptoms of ‘culture shock’. Discomforts related to food, language, and cultural norms tend to amplify when we start living in a new environment. After witnessing some of the following cultural differences, many international students experience it.
Another culture shock you may experience is the extra-friendly nature of the Americans. Here, the weather has an impact on people’s moods. During summer and fall, Americans are generally very amiable. They greet strangers with generous smiles and open hearts. I was initially confused when I first encountered this casual and friendly gesture from the locals. I wondered why they would even greet me. They barely knew me! Since we are not accustomed to being greeted by strangers for no reason in our country, we find the ‘small talk’ culture interesting. However, international students excel at assimilating themselves into new cultures. Dear upcoming international students, enhance your communication skills and embrace an interactive environment.
One of the most challenging culture shocks for many international students, especially those coming from South Asian countries, is the struggle with sudden responsibilities because they have always relied on either parents or helping hands to accomplish household chores. Here, everyone must do or share workloads at home. It is always a good idea to learn basic survival skills like cooking, driving and laundry. These are not gendered tasks but surviving skills for any individual.
Finally, how can I forget the naming issue? It took me some time to realise that I am no longer addressed as ‘Sonali ma’am’: an attribute I used to receive from my Bangladeshi students. Though Juliet in Shakespeare’s play Romeo and Juliet utters, “What’s in a name?”, I felt its significance strongly after coming to the US. Students now call me either Professor Banu or Jainab. While this was a cultural surprise, I was also taken aback to be addressed as a ‘professor’. Regardless of your professional designation, if you are a teacher, you will be addressed as a professor.
The writer is a PhD Student in Rhetoric, Writing and Culture and a Graduate Teaching Assistant Department of English at North Dakota State University.